REBECCA McINTOSH, LOVE TV, artist, citizen journalist, private conversations in public spaces, love, community engagement

Women want to talk about sex and men are far more interested in talking about romance. I have edited two small films presented bellow to prove this point.

One of my greatest discoveries from all the interviews I have done on love in LOVE TV is that 9 times out of 10 men are more likely to discuss in great detail their love relationship.

Women on the other hand are much more likely to talk about sex during interviews and we are talking details, the mechanics of the parts involved, measurements in centimetres and both auditory and olfactory descriptions where not much is left to the imagination.

I'm sure most women would recall having these conversations with their girl friends irreverent, graphic discussions about sex, almost anatomy lesson filled with laughter!

 The guys on the other hand during the LOVE TV interviews have spent allot of time relating to me tales about the Loves of their lives, how she makes him feel, what it is that he loves about her. Also the pain of love, their heartache worn like a badge of honour relishing in parading their wounded gaping heart.

This goes against our common western world cultural perceptions around gender specific notions of love and sex.

So much of the media diet we feast on leads us to believe that it's women who swoon for romance, and for men sex is the paramount obsession.

But what my findings reveal is the opposite! When it comes to love women are practical and men are romantic!

I think for women love is ultimately about survival, after all they have periods, they give birth, and at the end of the day do most of the child rearing, so love does need to have a practical undertone...or you could literarily be left holding the baby.

I think part of this practicality is expressed when women demystify sex and love by having candid funny conversations with each other around their sexual experiences.

Perhaps for guys the subject of love is an opportunity for them to be released from their mundane earthly lives. They can savour in the fantasy of their love, liberated from the pragmatic approach they take to all other aspects of their lives! To be romantic maybe a way for men to feel free!!

I think as a society we need to be careful not to bind ourselves so tightly to the social stereotypes depicted in the media as they are not necessarily true and they block us from being who we truly are.

If we could free ourselves from the classic ideals of masculine and feminine we would all probably get on a whole lot better.

Besides I have often heard a woman say,  "He would make a good husband" but

I have never heard a man say, "She would make a good wife"!

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Rebecca McIntosh, LOVE TV, artist, public art, citizen journalist, interviews, love, community engagement, public installation, LOVETV, LOVETVinterviews, Aphrodite, art, performance, live event, urban screens, multidisciplinary